Dating With Kids

I won't dare deny that dating with a child is not for the weak. ESPECIALLY if you have smaller children. Planning is a joke. Finding the energy and mental capacity to even prepare for a date used to give me a headache. Even when men offered "kid-friendly" dates, I'd pass. Why? Because ain't nobody trying to have adult time with their child! Can I get a break? *exhales* You get what I'm saying though. You desperately want and need that quality time with a special friend, but it just seems like another task. It actually reminds me of taking personal days as a teacher. The preparation necessary to take a day off, and the hell you encounter once you get back... Baby, it ain't even worth it.

My son is a teen now, and besides the pandemic stopping my dating show, things are a lot easier. HOWEVER! My dating preferences have changed. I no longer date men who don't have children. I have my reasons, but the main one is that I can't help them if ever they want any child outside of the one I've already given birth to. I'm not having anymore. I'm only accepting bonus kids (his children from previous relationships). I also have a height preference, but that has more to do with my son being a giant. Don't judge. It's not set in stone. So far, it hasn't been an issue, but I feel it's because I don't even allow myself to like anyone without children. I almost feel bad about it. Almost.

Some people with children prefer to date those without. We all have our reasons. What are your hang-ups when it comes to dating with kids? Do you have specific preferences related to your child(ren)? Are those preferences deal breakers?

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